Dr. Stephen Madigan’s highly respectful approach to therapy recognizes how couple’s bring their relationship to therapy with the hope of finding pathways to rescue, recover, and return to many of the foundational values (kindness, respect, love, humour, adventure, fairness) their relationship once experienced and lived through. His philosophy of therapy applies to both couple’s who intend to stay together or separate.
Stephen views expressions of relationship conflict (arguing, distance, anger, disrespect, sadness, resentment etc.) are often expressions of:
1) A way of protesting the need to return the couple’s intimate relationship back to its best ways of being (kindness, respect, love, etc.),
2) A grief response to a significant loss regarding how solid and happy the relationship use to feel,
3) The couples desire to recover the values they value most ( fairness, honesty, understanding, hope etc.) that have been lost because of the present expressions of conflict (arguing, distance, resentment, disrespect).
Stephen does not hold ‘expert’ opinions on whether the couple decides to repair the relationship or separate. He feels whatever path the couple decides on, it is important to restore respect, care, and fair-mindedness.